Remember the last time you had a family discussion about what movie to watch? Chances are, there were some disagreements! In fact, it might have been agonizing trying to get everyone to settle on the same one. Now imagine getting everyone to agree on what type of home to buy in a multigenerational scenario!
Obviously, you want family members to be in harmony when looking for a new home. The more everyone is on the same page, the smoother the process will be.
Here are some tips worth trying:
Make a list. Have everyone list the top three features they want in a new home. You might find that family members are closer to agreement than you thought. Also, family members will likely not be disappointed if they get two out of the three features they want.
Have a family meeting. Set a goal to have a clear profile of the kind of home you want by the end of the meeting. Be prepared for some lively discussion, but also be firm that a decision needs to be made.
Be understanding. If a family member insists on a particular feature, ask why. It might be trivial, such as having a shopping mall within walking distance, when driving is relatively easy. On the other hand, the desired feature might be something truly important and worth considering.
Manage expectations. Explain that not everyone will get everything they want and that you (or you and your significant other) will do your best to accommodate everyone’s wishes.
There’s no perfect solution. Depending on your family, it might be difficult to make sure everyone is happy with the home you end up buying. However, by using these tips you can ensure that everyone will at least feel they’ve been heard. Then, once you start building memories in your new place, everyone will start to feel like it’s home!